Shut the fuck up--I'm trying to enjoy the sex!!!!
There are different breeds of "Dirty Talkers" including the "Dirty Thinkers", "The Say but Don't Act(ors)" and the "I'm Going to Make You Feel Like a Piece of Trash(ers)".
The Dirty Thinkers: These are the ones who just think about everything they can do to you, day in and day out. They ponder the different positions they can maneuver you in, without cutting off (but definitely coming near cutting off) your circulation. These are the talkers that may disclose their kinkiest fantasies to you in broad daylight. But don't even think about it in the dark.
The Say but Don't Act: These are the talkers that are just all about talking. You can be in the bedroom, and they can be reciting all the things they want to do with/to you...okay....OKAY! Are you going to do it!?! No. The answer is no.
These talkers are ALL talk. Don't waste your time, move on.
The I'm Going to Make You Feel Like a Piece of Trash: Let me tell you how low you are. Let me rip apart every bit of security and confidence you have in yourself, so that you fully submit to me. And then, when you least expect it, I'll spank you--and you'll like it, cause' you have no other choice.
Then I'll call you a "Dirty Cunt" because we both know that's what you are.
It takes a very specific breed to gravitate towards this kind of dirty talker. You will usually find this in couples where either party (or both) came from families that were/are verbally abusive. Then you can also find this in standard role-playing. However, if this is the norm in your sex life, maybe you should question your level of self-respect. I couldn't imagine someone getting off on being degraded and spat on.
Every once in a while a little dirty talk is okay. Don't bombard the love sesh with it though--It can kill the vibe real quick if your partner isn't feeling it. Start out with a few short phrases, mentioning what feels good to you, but until you know your partner's style (and body) like the back of your hand, it's safer to stay away from the name-calling.
Happy Boning!
