Is it Love or Lust?

There's a fine, fine line between love and lust, and I believe the two are used interchangeably, and often confused!

So let's take a look at Merriam-Webster's Definition.

2 definitions come up:

1.: Intense or unbridled sexual desire
and
2.: Intense Longing.


This was surprising to me, because I always thought "lust" was more of an act then a desire- but clearly, I was very much mistaken!

Moving onto "Love": one of the deepest emotions experienced in relationships.

These are the first two definitions that came up:

1) : strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties
2) : attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers


I can see how someone can mix up the two! They both highlight "togetherness" , are left to be desired, and can really fuck with your head! Are they the same though?

My answer: No.

You can Love your baby, but only a pedophile would Lust for your child.

You can Love your material goods, but you can only really lust for your sex toys.

You can Love a sensation you experience, but it would be taboo to Lust for that feeling....


...Catch my drift?

So why do we confuse these terms in relationships? Is Lust a tagword for one night stand? or can you Lust and Love your partner at the same time.

Take a look at this video and comment on whether or not you agree or disagree with any of the word combination:

"Easy To Get" Just Doesn't Sound Half As Fun!

The title says it all.

Better stick with "Hard to Get" if you're going to play any game at all. It works. Even my mom (and doctors) say so. So here's what I did, I consulted the male and female perspective of the game, found out how to play it, and got some info on the benefits people experience from it.

Survey Says!

For the Gals:

Cosmopolitan: The Relationship Games You Should Play.
1) Answer half his calls/texts/emails etc. Make him beg to know why you're so busy!
2) Too much information (TMI) will scare him away. Keep him guessing...
3) Always be the one to end the date or phone call. I mean, you've got better things to do, right? RIGHT?!?
4) A little jealousy never hurt anyone. Flirt but don't talk dirt.
5) No sex. For like a day- wait no, like a month (if you can hold it for that long it will be well worth it!)

Here's the link if you want to read the article in its entirety: http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/dating-advice/547479-7

For the Guys:

It was a little bit harder to find content for the guys because it's always stressed that they are the chasers and the women are the prizes to be lured in.

So every website I consulted stated the statistics, that bachelors have a much higher success rate when only pursuing a woman after 48-72 hours of exchanging numbers. Some videos remarked that it's better for the woman to make the first point of contact, but this is what the majority rule remarked. Take a look at this "Professional Bachelor":




Question to ask yourself: Does this work for me?

It's so important to ask yourself this because not everyone functions the same way. You may be dealing with a very sensitive person who would rather speak with you (and know you're interested) than wait by the phone (and not know if you're interested) but feel more satisfied when you finally meet.

Try it out, and let me know if it works.

I'm super interested to hear your feedback on whether or not you think this game works, any juicy stories you'd like to share? Comment Away!


Signing off.

Who Said?

There's an explanation for everything out there. "How to Meet a Guy in 10 Days", "Don't go Chasing Waterfalls", "Kanye's New Workout Plan" ... You get the point. But no one ever chooses to ignore these guides, and just experience a relationship, sex, or love on their own.

My hopes are to change this for you.


In The Heart, The Streets, and The Sheets, I plan on introducing you to a world of obscurity-- a place that people would label taboo, but one that is actually normal to many. This place, in your life, should be where you feel most comfortable opening yourself up to new opportunities, intimate conversations, and thrilling experiences. Find this place, where the media, and gossip can't break your walls, and call it home.

"Who said?", is what you should really be asking yourself when you follow someone else's sex or relationship advice. Ask yourself that question constantly. Why am I engaging in this act/outing/experience/emotion, is it because I really want to? or am I just playing "The Game"? And what's the game anyway? Does everyone react to it in a promising way? These are the questions we need to ask ourselves before engaging in a relationship-The manuals do not tell all. Sometimes it just takes authentic, genuine, truthful, words to paint an accurate picture for someone. Try it sometime, you might be surprised.